Thursday, August 13, 2015

Why I'm Leaving My Church


I was sitting in the Wednesday night prayer service the week before we left for Canada.  Brother Brian went to his son Daniel’s baccalaureate service at the high school, and Greg Land was speaking.
 
As he began to talk he said, “Brian asked me if I would preach for him tonight.  I told him, ‘I’m no preacher but I can speak.’”
 
At that moment the thought that had been working its way to the surface over the past two years finally became clear.  That thought was “I’ll never be asked to speak like this in my church.”

That’s when I knew I had to go.

It’s been a long journey, not a snap decision.  I’ve been debating the idea that women need to be allowed into leadership roles in the church with friends and family over the past two years.  I’ve spoken to my pastor on several occasions.  I have shared my thoughts with the women in my Sunday School class, who are so dear to me.  I even presented the idea to the deacons at our church.

In the end, few minds have been changed about the role of women in my church.  But mine has been completely changed.  And so I find myself with no other alternative than to go.

After having a final talk with Brother Brian, we both agreed that it was for the best.  He said he had seen many people leave churches for the wrong reasons, but he felt that my decision to leave was valid.  I assured him that I was not hurt or angry or upset.  I just know there is a better place for me out there somewhere.

I’m saying goodbye to a church that has been a part of my life for more than 35 years.  The people there are like family.  Yet, I have great peace about it.  I know it’s the right decision and the right time.

Monday, August 10, 2015

What We've Been Reading


As the summer comes to an end Phil and I were packing things up and I was loading up all the books we had read this summer.  It's quite an assortment.  Some Phil read.  Some I read.  Some we both read.  Some of them you may want to check out.  Here's a short review of some of them.  I know Phil enjoyed the books he read but I am not including those in this review.

Fiction

The Lacuna by Barbara Kingsolver.  We are listening to this on CDs.  It is historical fiction about Trotsky and his assassination in Mexico , the Russian Revolution, Diego Rivera and Frieda Kahlo all rolled up into one big story.  Neither of us know much about any of these historical figures, so it is new information.  Kingsolver uses the main character, who is a writer, to illuminate the writing process.  Her use of language is beautiful

Hotel at the Corner of Bitter and Sweet by Jamie Ford.  Kathryn uses this in her classroom and let me borrow it.  I like it better than Phil did.  It is a love story written from the unusual perspective a thirteen-year-old Chinese boy.  The conflict in the story comes from the displacement of his girlfriend to a Japanese internment camp during WWII.  It is a good read.  I really liked the fact that the Quakers worked at the camps to help make the Japanese more comfortable.  I'm sure that wasn't the politically correct position to take at the time, and it really makes me think about parallels we might find in today's society.

Long Walk to Water by Linda Sue Park.  This is another book that Kathryn uses in her classroom.  It was a fast, easy read about the difficulty of life in drought-stricken, war-torn Africa.  There is an "aha" moment at the end that is great to see the students react to, which is why she likes it.

Non-Fiction

Talk Like TED by Carmine Gallo.  This book outlines 9 secrets to making an effect TED talk.  I enjoyed thinking about this because I'd always like to be better as a speaker.  He discusses the reasons for the 18 minute time-limit on the talks.  It really makes you boil things down to the most important points.  People who give the most-watched talks may practice them up to 200 times before actually taking the TED stage.

Small Wonder by Barbara Kingsolver.  This is a collection of 23 essays written in the months after the attacks of 9/11.  They cover a wide variety of topics, including an explanation of why she and her family don't watch television, her choices about living a simple life, and thoughts on being a mother and  a daughter.  I liked some of them very much.  I am always impressed with Kingsolver's use of language.

David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell.  This was my favorite book that I read because it does so much to challenge my thinking.  Gladwell always does.  In this book he examines the idea of the underdog and how we may look at it in the wrong way.  He makes the case that sometimes what looks like an advantage turns out to be a disadvantage.  He also relates stories that reveal that sometimes  things that look like terrible disadvantages, things you would never want in your life like losing a parent at a young age, can turn out to give you advantages that you would never dream of.

Christian Living/Theology

Searching for Sunday by Rachel Held Evans.  I'm always interested to see what Rachel has to say ever since Kathryn introduced me to here about five years ago.  Rachel has given me lots to think about in many areas of life.  Each of the sections of this book focuses on a different sacrament of the Church.  I enjoyed this book although I had read many excerpts from it on her blog.

Scary Close by Donald Miller.  Miller is another author I am always learning from.  His blog regularly has posts that I share with others because I think they are very insightful.  This book is about Donald learning about relationships in preparation for his wedding.  He married later in life and felt that he had thought a lot of wrong thoughts and had difficult patterns in his earlier relationships.  I've liked some of his other books much better than this one.

Did God Kill Jesus? by Tony Jones.  This was the most challenging book I read this summer.  The title itself is so provocative that it is difficult to think about.  Jones presents the different ways that Jesus' death has been looked at in different periods of history.  The end of the matter is that Jones focuses on God's self-sacrifice in the person of Jesus.  That's the simple answer, but there's a lot more to think about here, and I'm glad I tackled it.





Sunday, August 9, 2015

Treasures of the Summer 2015


Every year I end the summer with a pile of treasure.  It comes in many forms, mostly handwritten notes from dear friends.  All these things are very special and I'm so thankful for each person they represent.

Sara Duban:  Kind, thoughtful, and a good fisherman.

Sara Duban:  She's looking out for me.

Johnnie & Becky Bates:  Every year they give us such nice
gifts for our work here.  I am so thankful for our friendship.

Will Kiper:  A postcard from his trip that meant so much to me.

The Remigers:  Maple syrup produced from trees on their
property.  It can't be as sweet as they are to me.
(Corny, I know.)

One of my favorite notes
Serena loves my positive attitude.
I love this!

Cohen (a camper);  He told me he went to Winnipeg
and saw this and had to get it for me.  I wore it on my hat.

Aubrey Bates:  This sweet girl made this for me
in the shop at the beginning of the summer.







Friday, August 7, 2015

Our Youngest Volunteers


Earlier this summer I wrote a post called “What Makes COTW Different.”  There’s something else that I find pretty unique about Camp of the Woods ministry.  It’s the fact that whole families can serve here, and even the youngest members of the family can make a great contribution to the work that must be done here during camp weeks.

This summer I’ve watched several families come, some local Canadians and others from the states, and we’ve put them all to work.  They have filled in the gaps when our summer staff was short.  Here are some of them at work.

Ethan (age 13) swept, vacuumed, mopped, cleaned wash houses
and worked in the kitchen. 

Luke (age 12) took out trash and is training to be a life guard when he
is old enough.  He did many of his jobs with Ethan.

Gracie (age 10) did a lot of work in the kitchen the week her whole
family came to help.

Andrew cleaned with the other boys and, along with
his dad, helped with canoes at the afternoon swim time.

Megan's whole family has come to help many times.
She did lots of work in the kitchen.

This whole crew did the dishes for one of the meals.  Some of
the older ones (age 15 and up) also served as team captains.

Jonathan took care of slop buckets.
He is our "Adam-in-training."

Leah (15) was a team captain and my able assistant
at the archaeological dig.

Payton (15) had many talents and worked in many different
roles, including acting in skits. 

The Reimger family worked with us for 4 weeks this summer.
What a blessing they all are!

Gavin (11) helped his dad replace some of the landscaping logs we
have near the chapel.

Serena (11) was an outstanding scorekeeper.

Gabriel (12) cleaned up in the lodge and that includes windows.

One of Jaren's (12) duties included snake wrangling.

These three, Evan, Emma and Aubrey, did so many jobs I can't
name them all.  This week they were my table setting crew.
They are great help!

I especially want to thank Alex, who assisted me all summer in watering the flowers.  Being outdoors is not one of his favorite things, and the bugs drive him crazy.  He faithfully watered every other day and kept everything alive and beautiful.  He only complained when it got really hot and he had to start watering some of the areas every day.  It was quite a step for him to take on this responsibility, and I am so proud of him.

My able assistant
I want to encourage some of my friends who would like to find a place for your whole family to serve together to get in touch with me.  We are always looking for those who will come along side us and work in a ministry that I think you will love.